When a codependent finds a project, it will most likely be a person
And if that person is an addict, the codependent will want to save him from himself.
And if the codependent tries to save him from himself, she will most likely reject her own needs.
And when she rejects her own needs, she’ll need the addict to fill the void in her.
And when the addict can’t fill that void due to a lack of emotional health and maturity, the codependent will feel abandoned.
And those feelings of abandonment will perpetuate her belief that she doesn’t deserve love.
And if she believes that she doesn’t deserve love, she will try harder to earn it.
And when she can’t earn it, she’ll feel her inner child begin to cry.
And when her inner child begins to cry, her heart will break into a thousand pieces, and she will be in terrible pain.
And this terrible pain will tell her to run from the addict and seek a life and a partner that can love her and finally meet her needs.
Eventually, she will build up the courage to run from the addict, and he’ll manipulate her by talking about his own brokenness.
